Thelma helps a successful single woman who is in a vulnerable mental state because of the mental abuse she suffered in her last relationship.
I broke up with my boyfriend last year, and to be honest, I am glad that it ended.
All I can remember about that relationship was the days I cried myself to sleep, the emotional abuse and financial issues. I helped my ex sort out his financial issues and I know that he is still struggling with it.
Because of him, I almost ended up with serious financial issues but before that happened, I decided to end the relationship because of the mental torture he caused me.
I am slowly recovering but the fear of relationships is still there.
Whenever my parents talk about marriage, I get anxious.
Just like other women, I do want to have a family of my own but the fear of attachment is too extreme for me to manage.
Thelma, I am not materialistic but I don’t want to be in debt beyond what I can manage. And if the emotional abuse happens again, I know I might hurt myself.
My ex has no idea what he has done to me mentally. I don’t love him anymore, maybe I even hate him. I just want to be the old me. I just want to move on but I don’t know how.
I even thought of staying single forever but I know my parents won’t let that happen. They want me to settle down. To them, I am a successful single woman but, to me, I am a mentally unstable woman.
I just want to be at peace.
Just Want To Move On
Dear Just Want To Move On,
I’m sorry to hear you had a bad time. It’s an awful shock, isn’t it?
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