Dear Thelma: I am depressed, socially awkward and feel so lost


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I recently graduated from secondary school and sat for the SPM exam.

The trauma I experienced during primary school was carried over to secondary school, which was another rocky journey for me. Some of those experiences have been etched in my heart. But, I know, all human beings are bound to get hurt and scarred sometimes, and will fall, rise, hate, feel anger, and eventually learn how to love.

I am a socially awkward girl, feeling self-conscious whenever I interact with people, and I am self-aware when the situation is stuffy. I’ve felt a lot of things in my life, from feeling lost, to knowing some certainty, from despising something so much, and learning to let go, to forgiving myself, moving on, and most importantly, experiencing what life has given me, which I am grateful for. There are so many things I have learnt, from the people whom I’ve met, and from the good and the bad.

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