Dear Thelma: We love each other but he’s engaged to another girl


I’m a 32-year-old single female. My life has not been a happy one.

All my life, I have been sacrificing my happiness for others’ happiness; whenever I wanted to say no, I have said yes. I haven’t seen happiness so far.

My bestie passed away in 2016 because of me (I couldn’t be his girl) but he meant a lot to me. I couldn’t think of him as my husband but he wanted me to be his wife. When I lost him, I lost hope and trust in any guy or relationship.

Time passed, and on Nov 23, 2018, I spoke to someone, a complete stranger from another state, on a social app but accidentally. That was the first time we spoke. We never seemed like strangers; he was so cool and funny.

I never thought I’d speak to him again as I wasn’t interested in any guy. But he messaged me, asking if he could talk or message me whenever he felt like it. I said OK. We started to speak to each other every day.

We became close and shared anything and everything. We had good days but also fights and arguments which brought us pain But still we never gave up on each other.

He loves me a lot as a bestie but is too possessive and insecure. He wants me.

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