Elderly fear growing old alone and unwanted

I REFER to the recent media reports on the government’s proposal to introduce a new law aimed at making children care for their ageing parents.

As a senior citizen myself, I understand why this issue has attracted growing public attention. Malaysia, like many countries, is facing an ageing population, changing family structures and increasing social pressures.

But behind all the policy debates lies a very human concern – the fear among many elderly parents of growing old alone and unwanted.

Most parents do not expect luxury or large financial support from their children. After spending much of their lives raising families, many simply hope for companionship, respect and the comfort of remaining connected with their loved ones.

A home may be appropriate in certain circumstances, especially where specialised medical or nursing care is needed. Some elderly persons may even choose such arrangements willingly.

However, many senior citizens still view the prospect with sadness. What they fear most is not just relocation but also emotional abandonment.

Another important issue is how responsibility is to be shared when several children are involved. In many families, one child often ends up carrying most of the burden.

Disputes may arise over finances, caregiving duties, housing arrangements or medical expenses. Some children may genuinely face financial or personal constraints, while others may simply avoid responsibility altogether.

Moreover, care should not be measured purely in financial terms. Emotional support, regular contact, companionship and concern are equally important. Any proposed law must therefore carefully consider how responsibilities are to be fairly shared.

While laws may help enforce financial maintenance, legislation alone cannot create affection, gratitude or family bonds. These values must come from upbringing, culture and personal conscience.

At the same time, society should recognise that many adult children today face genuine pressures due to employment, housing costs and raising their own families. Therefore, we should also strengthen community support systems for the elderly by providing accessible healthcare, home assistance, social engagement programmes and support for their caregivers.

As Malaysia progresses economically, we must ensure that compassion and family responsibility continue to remain part of our national values.

WONG SOO KAN

Petaling Jaya