PETALING JAYA: Becoming a father to a two-month-old daughter has taught 32-year-old sales executive Daniel Tan that parenting is as much about setting an example as it is about providing for a family.
For Tan, fatherhood comes with greater responsibilities than it did during his own childhood, as children are increasingly exposed to influences from both the real and digital worlds.
“I am more careful about my own behaviour now because children learn from what they see. The responsibility is much bigger than before.”
While his wife takes the lead on many day-to-day caregiving tasks, Tan tries to spend quality time with his daughter.
“I handle most of the outdoor activities. It’s my chance to bond with her and create memories together,” he said.
Like many young parents, he and his wife rely on communication and teamwork to balance childcare and household responsibilities.
“We divide the duties according to what works best for us.”
Although fathers are often viewed primarily as breadwinners, Tan believes the focus should be on being present and doing one’s best as a parent.
“I don’t really think too much about stereotypes. I just try to be the best father I can be.
“The most challenging part is keeping up with what children are learning today and teaching them the right values and behaviour,” he said.
At the same time, he said watching his daughter grow and learn has been among the most rewarding experiences of his life.
