Dear Thelma: I'm still in love with bullying control freak who dumped me


She's still in love with the guy who dumped her although he is a bully and control freak.

My boyfriend of three years dumped me for another girl. They’ve been texting each other behind my back. Every time we argued, he refused to talk to me and would ignore me. Instead, he’d text her about our arguments. It’s like he wanted to seek comfort from her and not me.

I was faithful to him till the very end. He was a control freak. Whatever it is I wanted and loved to do, he’d forbid. For instance, I love watching movies by myself in my free time and he strictly forbade it, saying he was jealous of the actors. I wanted to find a job that suits my degree and he threatened to break up with me cause he didn’t like the idea of me working with people. I love hanging out with my girlfriends and he would go nuts and refuse to talk to me the whole day if I went out with them. Honestly, I got tired of his behaviour but since it was my first relationship, I thought I would just stay with him. I thought maybe he would change some day.

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