Dear Thelma: I'm still in love with bullying control freak who dumped me


She's still in love with the guy who dumped her although he is a bully and control freak.

My boyfriend of three years dumped me for another girl. They’ve been texting each other behind my back. Every time we argued, he refused to talk to me and would ignore me. Instead, he’d text her about our arguments. It’s like he wanted to seek comfort from her and not me.

I was faithful to him till the very end. He was a control freak. Whatever it is I wanted and loved to do, he’d forbid. For instance, I love watching movies by myself in my free time and he strictly forbade it, saying he was jealous of the actors. I wanted to find a job that suits my degree and he threatened to break up with me cause he didn’t like the idea of me working with people. I love hanging out with my girlfriends and he would go nuts and refuse to talk to me the whole day if I went out with them. Honestly, I got tired of his behaviour but since it was my first relationship, I thought I would just stay with him. I thought maybe he would change some day.

Play, subscribe and stand a chance to win prizes worth over RM39,000! T&C applies.

Monthly Plan

RM 13.90/month

RM 11.12/month

Billed as RM 11.12 for the 1st month, RM 13.90 thereafter.

Best Value

Annual Plan

RM 12.33/month

RM 9.87/month

Billed as RM 118.40 for the 1st year, RM 148 thereafter.

Follow us on our official WhatsApp channel for breaking news alerts and key updates!

Next In Family

Malaysian parents organise event to raise awareness on autism
Spoiling your grandchildren with gifts can be problematic in the long run
Starchild: Malaysian kids spill why they love learning their favourite subjects
The importance of a well-navigated discussion about organ donation with families
These Malaysians share the painful experience of stepping away from family
Gone are traditional ideas of masculinity for boys to develop identities
6 tips on how to start volunteering as a family
These Malaysian families volunteer to instil values in their children and strengthen bonds
Penang-based campaign aims to dispel myths about social workers
Malaysian painter-poet turns to art to express her journey of grief

Others Also Read