Don’t tolerate abuse, time to make a stand

Malaysia's Amy Kwan Dict Weng in action in the ribbon qualification round of rhythmic gymnastics during the SEA Games at the Rizal Memorial Coliseum in Manila. IZZRAFIQ ALIAS / The Star. December 6, 2019.

THERE’s this movie called Athlete A on Netflix. It’s a documentary that tells of how a few gymnasts survived USA Gymnastics doctor Larry Nassar’s abuse and how the toxic culture in training was exposed.

A few courageous gymnasts spoke up and that put an end to the wicked manipulation of their perpetrator.

But it wasn’t easy.

Speaking up about abuse or toxic culture is hard, especially for athletes who have gone through it, and it’s worse in a culture like ours, where speaking our mind is not common.

The abuse may have been verbal, physical or even sexual.

And the victims fear further victimisation if they come out in the open.

So, it was refreshing when a few former Malaysian rhythmic gymnasts – Sarina Sundara Rajah, Lee Wan Nin, Durratun Nashihin Rosli and Amy Kwan – spoke up about abuses.

Some shared their own experiences with their coaches on how they were subjected to verbal abuse while others agreed that one should not keep quiet if their rights are violated.

Some, however, were quick to point out the difference between discipline and abuse.

There’s a thin line between the two.

A coach may raise his or her voice and use harsh words but if it’s done for the benefit of the athletes, that’s disciplining. It’s up to the athlete how he or she intends to stomach it.

How much is too much?

How do we know when a touch is just a touch – and not something more?

How will a young athlete react under such conditions, knowing that his or her career is at stake?

According to National Sports Council (NSC) director general Datuk Ahmad Shapawi Ismail, a proper system is in place and different avenues are available for athletes to seek help.

No one will be victimised, he said.

And there are teams to investigate the validity and intent of every complaint. That’s because, as Shapawi said, some parties should not play the victim card by giving a false picture of the real situation.

If there is truth in the complaint, actions would be taken.

By action, it is hoped the guilty ones are made to pay and not just moved to another department far away. Punitive action is needed.

God only knows what happens in states and school sports where monitoring is minimal.

There have been coaches, in athletics, swimming and diving, who have been accused of molesting their charges.

Some have even been charged in court.

Athletes know best when their training ground is no longer a safe haven for them.

They should not tolerate it. They have to make a stand.

Happy Independence Day, Malaysia.