Sharing the experience of and ways to deal with depression

DEPRESSION is real. However, it is still considered a taboo subject especially in our part of the world where conversation about it is interlaced with innuendos.

We are accustomed to bottling up our emotions because we would be considered as weak if we speak up.

I have also noticed that most people abruptly shun those who show signs that they might be suffering from depression.

Reading the news about the cause of Chinese chanteuse Coco Lee’s death on July 5 this year really left me devastated because I could relate with her agony in dealing with depression.

I was just about to begin my post-graduate studies for a PhD when I experienced depression for the first time. Fulfilling the university’s rigorous requirements while working full-time as a teacher was a draining task.

Adding salt to the wound, my six-year personal relationship came to an end. It was indeed a dark phase for me.

For months, I felt unhappy, frail and preferred to stay in bed all day long. Nevertheless, I still diligently attended to all of my responsibilities, including teaching, and none of my colleagues had any inkling that I was battling depression.

Later, I found out that carrying on as usual was one of the barriers to seeking help. People often assume that when you project a strong image and do not show any signs of illness, you are all right.

During my bouts of depression, I indulged in unhealthy activities to escape from my unfulfilling life. This lasted for about four months and then I had an unexpected epiphany to combat the demon inside me.

I turned towards spirituality. I began to fathom the philosophy behind Islamic concepts such as Tawakallah (sole reliance in God’s plan) and Qada’ Qadr (fates and destiny).

I also began to read positive articles and insights from Muslim scholars as well as esteemed global figures.

These practices really helped to alleviate the agony of my depression, and I slowly regained my strength.

For those who are battling this unseen demon, I encourage you all to seek help. Do not be shy to admit to others that you are depressed.

You must take it to heart that seeing counsellors or psychiatrists does not mean you are crazy. Consulting mental health professionals should not be taboo in our society anymore.

Have faith!

DR SHAHRILL RAMLI

Batang Kali, Selangor