A Chinese man who admits to being a kept man is praised for his understanding and supportive nature towards his partner. - Photo: SCMP composite/Douyin
BEIJING (SCMP): A Chinese man, known online as “Sudden Fantasy” and nicknamed “a lady killer”, has captured significant attention by sharing how he completely relies on his Japanese wife financially, amassing over 1 million followers on Douyin in just a month.
The man, whose age remains undisclosed, has lived in Japan for eight years and garnered a following of 1.4 million by sharing his experiences as a “kept man”.
Sudden Fantasy describes himself as an ordinary man from Beijing, but his wife, whose Chinese name is Fenghua, is not only well-educated and employed but also hails from a wealthy Japanese family. Her mother has travelled extensively around the world.
Initially, he did not consider pursuing a romantic relationship with her due to his financial struggles. However, during a particularly low point in his life – when he could barely afford daily meals – Fenghua offered her support by bringing him food and later contributed to his tuition fees.
At first, he hesitated to pursue a romantic relationship with her because of his financial difficulties. - Photo: Baidu
After dating for two and a half years, the couple married.
In traditional Japanese society, men are usually the primary breadwinners while women focus on household duties; however, his story reverses this norm.
Earlier this year, he quit his job and fully embraced life as a “kept man”, allowing him to spend his days playing video games at home while his wife covered all household expenses. The details of his previous occupation were not disclosed.
His wife even arranged a jar containing 260,000 yen (US$1,740) to cover his daily expenses. He states he cannot repay her because it would make her cry.
He quickly gained over 1 million followers in just 30 days, according to Newrank.cn, a Chinese social media evaluation and big data analytics platform.
One key reason for his popularity is that his videos authentically depict the life of a kept man while providing thoughtful commentary on mutual support and understanding within a relationship.
To help manage his daily expenses, his wife has set up a jar with 260,000 yen (US$1,740). - Photo: Baidu
For instance, he revealed that despite waking up at 7am on Sunday, he stays in bed until his wife awakens at noon and then accompanies her while she scrolls through her phone until 3pm.
He explains that getting up earlier might make his wife feel anxious about staying in bed, so he chooses to remain with her to support her relaxation.
When his wife does household chores, he keeps her company, even though he does not actively assist her.
“I’m like a vulture hovering around, keeping an eye on her. There aren’t many clothes to hang, but letting her do it all alone would make her resentful,” he shared, explaining that by staying close she can call on him whenever she needs.
He also prioritises her comfort by allowing her to shower first, preventing her from stepping onto a cold, damp bathroom floor.
“You have no idea how uncomfortable it is to step on cold tiles after a long workday. A good mood can be ruined instantly. So, I make sure the bathroom is dry before she uses it.”
He keeps his wife company while she does chores and occasionally helps with simple tasks. - Photo: Baidu
He emphasises that the ultimate philosophy of being a proper kept man extends beyond merely doing things for one another; it is about finding ways to mutually enhance each other’s lives.
“You will not last long if you’re just doing things to be nice to her; you’ll eventually burn out. Willpower is limited. You need to discover a way for both of you to live together harmoniously; what I do is not just for her, but also for me. That is my ultimate philosophy as a kept man.”
His videos are viewed as insightful lessons filled with practical advice, resonating widely with both men and women.
One viewer commented: “This isn’t about being a kept man – it’s about respecting women, being considerate, and demonstrating emotional intelligence.”
Another added: “Bro, you truly understand women. You’ve highlighted aspects I’ve sensed but never discussed with my partner. I think most guys do not get this.”
A third humorously noted: “It’s like paying for one person’s meals but getting a nanny and an emotionally supportive partner in return. Honestly, it’s not a bad deal – I want one too!” - SOUTH CHINA MORNING POST
