FB is 10: Finding love through Facebook

  • Nation
  • Tuesday, 04 Feb 2014

WHETHER you meet that special person in college, work place or via online dating, love has no boundaries!

Facebook, which is celebrating its 10th anniversary Tuesday, has also helped many people find their love. The social media site has taken over as the one of the dating hot spots in recent years as many single people try their luck online.

According to a study by University of Chicago, from 2005 to 2012, more than a third of marriages began online! The study even claims that online couples have happier and longer marriages, although obviously they aren't being measured over a lengthy period of time!

To prove this study right, I interviewed two couples who met through Facebook. K. Giri Rao, 21, met his girlfriend S. Sangeetha, also 21, on Facebook in April 2011 and didn't look back.

"I randomly added her on Facebook around April 2011. To be honest,  I was surprised - what made her add me?

"It took me a month to ask her out and without fail, I chatted with her every day to build our relationship. She didn't agree to meet up at first because she didn't know me well yet. But somehow, I convinced her and we met.

"We dated often and on one fine day, I proposed to her and obviously, she said yes," said the Inti College student who is pursuing his degree in IT Networking & Security and is also a freelance photographer with a production company.

He has been with his girlfriend for more than two years and she is currently pursuing her degree in Commerce at University of British Columbia, Canada.

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder and Giri agreed: "Being in a long-distance relationship is not easy, and I know it well because I'm currently in one. We use Facebook as our communication platform, just like how we started. She will be coming back to Malaysia this June and I'm looking forward to meeting her again," he said.

M. Shameni Clarissa, 22, met her boyfriend K. Diines, also 22, through Facebook but it started off differently for Shameni.

"He sent me a request on Facebook but I never responded. One day, as I was stalking this guy who was his friend and just to get to know his friend better, I decided to accept his friend request. But things went the other way round.

"We clicked right away and I wanted to get to know him better. He came all the way from Kuala Lumpur to meet me in Ipoh and that's how our bond began.

"It wasn't until October last year that we made it official. He still teases me because I made him wait for 44 days before I accepted him as my boyfriend," said the paramedic graduate.

They've been together for four months now and she hopes to see her leap of faith work out in the years to come.

"I know it's too soon to say anything about my relationship but we are more like best friends and it has been so much of fun. By God's grace, hopefully, we will make it through," she said.

Some say that finding love through Facebook is risky as you don't meet the person first-hand in real life. Giri quashed the thought but also reminded people to be cautious.

"Finding love through Facebook is not risky but you've got to be careful who you are chatting with. Facebook is a great way to meet new people and connect with them, and you have complete control of how you choose to present yourself online.

"As long as you're fully aware of what you're doing, there shouldn't be any issues with socialising and getting to know someone.

Shameni said one has to be really careful getting to know a person through Facebook but she trusted her gut in doing that.

"I did! I eventually took him to meet my parents first when we were just friends and I was really confident about him from the way he got along with my parents.

"I actually decided to meet him because he was also my cousin's friend. I did a little background check and he turned out to be a nice person," said Shameni.

Giri advises those who're trying out online dating via social media sites: "Don't be afraid to do what you feel is right. Some people might be judgmental and pessimistic but if you know you have found the right one, then it doesn't matter how you found them... does it?"

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