Treasuring ties that bind

A file picture of a family whose members came from Kuala Lumpur, Kedah and Penang enjoying their Chinese New Year reunion dinner at Lim Jetty in Weld Quay, George Town.

THE joy of spotting familiar faces, slightly weathered by the passage of time yet radiating the same warmth, was heartening.

I was at a gathering to welcome one of our childhood friends whom we last met in December 2019, shortly before the Covid-19 pandemic hit.

YK, as he is called, came back to Penang from Australia for a Christmas and New Year break. In tow were his wife and two children.

We booked a room that could accommodate two tables in a Chinese restaurant that came with a karaoke set.

The atmosphere was buzzing with excitement and happiness as we celebrated being together once more. It was a time of joy, laughter and shared memories.

The reunion was nothing short of wonderful – a testament to the enduring bonds forged in the innocence of youth.

And sharing the elation this time around were our wives and children.

We had the customary “lou sang” (prosperity toss) that saw the room erupting in the familiar chant of “Heng ah! Ong ah! Huat ah!” (good luck, fortune and prosperity).

The reunion was a treasure trove of shared stories – a collection of anecdotes and life experiences.

The Covid-19 outbreak had prompted most of us to re-evaluate our priorities and what truly mattered in life.

Most have embraced a simpler and more sustainable lifestyle.

One had traded his branded watch for a smart watch.

He told us that at times, he doesn’t even wear one.

Another has been hitting the gym regularly to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

One who used to be shy and reserved took charge of the microphone that night, belting out our favourite hits from the late ’90s.

Letting his hair down, he said the outbreak was a reminder of how fleeting life is.

Remember the time when we could only video-call our loved ones during the festive period due to social distancing measures and lockdowns?

It was a lesson learnt on the importance of human connection.

Many people have developed a deeper appreciation for family and friends, and recognised the significance of emotional support and maintaining ties.

This Saturday is the first day of the Lunar New Year. Do not forget the reunion dinner on Friday, which is a time-honoured tradition that goes beyond just sharing a meal.

It reflects family values, a way to start Chinese New Year with positive energy.

It is a display of unity and harmony within the family that fosters a sense of togetherness.

It reminds us of the Chinese cultural value of filial piety.

Put your smartphones away to allow for more meaningful and engaging conversations with your loved ones, be it the young or old.

A mobile-free environment can certainly contribute to a more positive and inclusive social atmosphere.

Just as I was wrapping up this piece, the lyrics of Kenny Roger’s Twenty Years Ago kept playing in my head.

“All my memories from those days come gather round me.

“What I’d give if they could take me back in time.

“It almost seems like yesterday.

“Where do the good times go?

“Life was so much easier twenty years ago.”

The recent reunion at the Chinese restaurant has become a cherished chapter in the story of our friendship.

It was not just the delicious dishes, but the enduring warmth of shared laughter and the promise of future gatherings that I will treasure.

Remember to cherish your loved ones in your own special way.

Wishing you a prosperous year ahead and Gong Xi Fa Cai!