Dear Thelma: Why are my colleagues picking on me?

I'M a woman, 30 years old. I have always been bullied at my workplace and even when I’m not at work but leisurely hanging around, everywhere I go. I don’t understand why.

At all my workplaces, I have always been careful with my speech, never spoke ill of any of my colleagues nor got involved in any politicking, whereas many of my other friends who were chatty and busybody who minded other peoples’ business and spoke ill of others got plenty of friends and people even respected them. When they had nothing else to talk about, they even made up stories about others and yet people love to listen to their stories, damaging other peoples’ reputation and hurting peoples’ feelings. Why is this so?

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