Feel the need to be on the go all the time? Here's permission to relax

Being able to relax is just as important as working or participating in enriching activities. — AFP

In psychology, prevailing opinion holds that self-discipline helps us prioritise our long-term objectives over momentary pleasures.

Planning for the future and setting long-term goals helps us to gain self-confidence and make progress in life, which usually leads to more happiness.

These are important parameters of emotional well-being, except when they become a source of anxiety.

Researchers at the Universities of Zurich, Switzerland, and Radboud, The Netherlands, created a questionnaire to measure respondents’ capacity for hedonism, or their ability to focus on their immediate needs and enjoy short-term pleasures, to examine how this related to their well-being.

They concluded in a meta-analysis published in late July (2020) in the journal Personality and Social Psychology that time spent relaxing (resting, going to the cinema, reading, going to restaurants etc) is just as important as working or participating in enriching activities like learning a language or practising a sport.

People who were able to fully relax during leisure activities tended to have a higher sense of wellbeing, and were less likely to suffer from depression and anxiety.

The study authors say the scientific literature on the subject has largely been targeted at examining how we can achieve our goals most efficiently.

“It’s time for a rethink,” says University of Zurich motivational psychology researcher Katharina Bernecker.

“The pursuit of hedonic and long-term goals needn’t be in conflict with one another.

“Our research shows that both are important and can complement each other in achieving wellbeing and good health.

“It is important to find the right balance in everyday life.”

This topic particularly resonates in the current moment, when many people across the world are working from home.

“Thinking of the work you still need to do can lead to more distracting thoughts at home, making you less able to rest,” adds Bernecker.

So what can you do to enjoy your free time and relax without feeling guilty?

While more research is needed, the study suggested a few possibilities.

Carving out specific moments for idle or leisure time and setting time limits in order to more completely separate them from other activities is a start towards allowing ourselves real enjoyment without guilt. – AFP Relaxnews