The writer (not pictured) hopes that all fellow retirees have found their inner peace – an anchor so strong that it cannot be shaken by others. — Freepik
When the Year of the Snake arrived in 2025 and my 84th birthday was close by, it dawned on me that I had completed seven full cycles of it.
Now, having just celebrated my birthday in May, I find myself wondering what lies ahead and it has already had a touching start. One of my sisters, visiting from Australia, hosted a lovely birthday lunch for me during her trip.
In the Chinese zodiac, the snake’s shedding of its skin symbolises renewal and transformation. At this late stage of my life, however, I don’t envisage any major transformations. I shall simply modify some old habits and adopt new ones that make life a little easier.
People often tell me I don’t look my age. In fact, their eyes tend to widen noticeably when they discover I’m an octogenarian. But I’m aware that I’ve slowed down – physically and mentally. I’ve grown more sensitive to spicy food, rely on well-padded shoes when I go shopping, and consciously avoid slippery surfaces.
Many of my fellow seniors like to talk about the good old days but I always remind them to enjoy the present too. I’ve been discovering new favourites in food, handy cooking and gardening tips, and I continue to make new friends – both young and old.
Lifestyles change with each generation, and while we may sometimes feel awed or baffled, there’s much we can learn from the younger ones, especially when it comes to technology. Staying connected through a smartphone has been a great comfort – overcoming the barriers of distance and time.
Thanks to the internet and my mobile phone, I can read something informative or entertaining wherever I am. I come across useful tips, breathtaking photos of animals and nature, thought-provoking quotes, and a few good jokes. Thanks to WhatsApp, I can easily share screenshots and updates with others – and I’m grateful to all who send me meaningful videos and news.
Each of us walks a unique path. I hope that all fellow retirees have found their inner peace – an anchor so strong that it cannot be shaken by others – and a faith that embraces goodwill toward all people, regardless of culture, colour or creed.
It has taken many years for us to become who we are as senior citizens – and we are still learning and growing through the constant changes around us. Life’s lessons come in many forms – through joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, triumph and loss. The heartwarming and humorous moments help to heal us through love and laughter. Surprises will continue to come, and we will still make mistakes – in our words, our actions, and sometimes in our silence.
I once read that forgetfulness has less to do with age and more to do with having too much stored in the mind. Perhaps we should try discarding some of the painful memories to make room for those that bring serenity and joy. In doing so, we can also let go of outdated habits and adopt new ones that serve us better.
No diet, exercise, or spiritual practice can guarantee we’ll avoid illness or accidents – our bodies have an expiry date. But when adversity strikes, we can choose our response – with despair and resentment, or with resilience and hope.
I’ve been deeply blessed – from my birth in Kuala Kangsar to the many places I’ve called home, and through the kindness of family, friends and strangers. With gratitude and goodwill, I look forward to whatever years lie ahead – and perhaps, even to rearing my head again when the next Year of the Snake arrives.
