Dear Thelma: Did saying no to pre-marital sex cost me this relationship?

I am 33. Four years have passed since my last relationship. We dated for six years. He was a decent and hardworking man. We knew each other from university but only started dating after we began working.I made the first move. It was my first time being in a relationship, but not for him.

Things were fine at the beginning. We mostly went dutch at meals as we had only just started working. Being the older child in his single-parent family, he needed to support his mum. I really thought this guy was a good catch, because he was family-oriented and treated his mum well.