Dear Thelma: ‘How do I stop from wanting a man who doesn’t love me?’

In 'Dear Thelma' this week, a girl can’t stop pining for a boyfriend who left her.

When I met P three years ago, I was thrilled when he asked me out on a date. Over time, I found myself falling in love with him. I was obsessed with P even though he did not meet my criteria of an ideal mate. I have drawn up a checklist of what I look for in a life partner, and P does not seem to fit the bill. Strangely, I am happy just to be with him.