Dear Thelma: 'He controls my every move'

A reader feels like she is not able to be herself in a relationship. 

I’m now in my 20s. I’ve been thinking a lot about my current relationship. As the days go by, I’m feeling very frustated over the stuff that’s happened in the past. 

We’ve been together for two years and still counting. There’s quite a big age gap between us. We’ve had quite a number of arguments over the last couple of years, over small and big matters, leading to certain compromises.