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Published: Wednesday April 24, 2013 MYT 12:00:00 AM
Updated: Friday April 26, 2013 MYT 12:40:40 AM

Sticky situation

Happy family: Diana Roslam with husband
Azezul Alfredo and daughter Emma Arianna.
Diana says she tries to keep her leave for ‘Emmagencies’.

Happy family: Diana Roslam with husband Azezul Alfredo and daughter Emma Arianna. Diana says she tries to keep her leave for ‘Emmagencies’.

Working parents often feel guilty leaving behind their sick child.

IT is never easy to deal with sick children, especially when you are a working parent. This is the dilemma that working parents face. It is actually tough to decide between staying home with a sick child or saving your leave days for other emergencies. Most working parents feel guilty sending their sick children to the day care centre, but sometimes they have to because they have no choice. Social media executive Diana Roslam, 28, finds herself in a fix each time she has to take her child Emma Arianna for her immunisation jabs or when the one-year-old falls ill. Her husband works out of town and although her extended family is ever supportive, the onus is on her to take care of her child at such times.

“I’m lucky that my workplace is close to home. I get 15 days off in a year. But it’s only April and I’ve already used up seven days; four days when she was in the hospital and three days of her having fever due to teething. I find myself counting the days left and sometimes saying ‘No’ to having a couple of days off from the hecticness at work just because I want to keep the leave for ‘Emma-gencies’.

“I love my baby and would do anything for her. If I could, I’d stay home with her and teach her all the things that I want her to know, but I don’t have the luxury of doing so. There are bills to be paid,” explains Diana.

Deciding when you need to stay with your sick child is tricky as there is no way to tell how ill your child will get as the day progresses and how much he will need his mum or dad.

Hunsa Eakturapakal says, “When my child falls sick, I find it tough deciding whether to go to work or stay back. I feel more guilty when I’m left with no choice, especially if I have to go overseas or attend an urgent meeting.

“Although I’m the director of my company, I try to follow the rules and regulations in terms of taking emergency leave,” says the 30-something mother. To read more about the dilemma parents face, go to ParenThots.

Disciplining toddlers

The task of administering discipline can be frustrating and unpleasant, but it is a crucial element of parenting. Somewhere between the ages of 18 and 24 months, children need to begin recognising, understanding and respecting parental authority.

This basic lesson should be taught with wisdom, discernment and creativity in an atmosphere of genuine love.

The key to the entire process is the skilful use of consequences, both negative and positive. Children have to understand that different types of behaviour produce different results – some pleasant and some not so pleasant.

Focus On The Family outlines what and how parents can teach toddlers discipline and obedience.

Parents write in

Find out how other parents make learning fun for their kids and which games they play to enhance memory skills. This week six parents share their experiences.

If you want to win the Gobblet Gobblers strategy game, which is distributed by BRAINet, then send an email to parenthots@thestar.com.my and tell us about “Games that help test my child’s memory” in 200-700 words. Today is the last day to submit entries, so hurry!

If you’d rather win five Disney School Skills workbooks, then email parenthots@thestar.com.my on “How my family learns while having fun” in 200-700 words. There is one set of books to be won each month from now until August.

For the details, terms and conditions for both contests, go to ParenThots.

> ParenThots is The Star’s parenting portal. For more information, e-mail parenthots@thestar.com.my or surf to www.parenthots.com.

Tags / Keywords: Lifestyle, Family & Community, parenting, leave, sick child

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