Another form of bullying

  • Letters
  • Saturday, 17 Nov 2012

I WRITE in the hope that all parties concerned i.e. the school, the Education Ministry and parents are aware of bullying in all forms in our schools and take steps to protect those who are unable or scared to speak out for fear of being victimised further.

My daughter is now in the midst of her SPM examination.

Right after her trial examination, she was boycotted by half of her classmates due to the instigation of a fellow student.

They would not speak to her and excluded her from their activities.

They made sarcastic remarks and also sent poison pen letters to her. Worse this student included in her gang the daughter of the chairman of the PIBG.

As a mother, I was most distressed to see her avoiding classes on the pretext of being unwell when she used to look forward to school before.

She had a full attendance record last year and did quite well in her trial exams.

A very alert teacher who was aware that her classmates were

not on speaking terms with her advised her to focus on her studies and not to be bothered with anything else.

To add salt to the wound, my daughter had helped most of them with their schoolwork and even used our home printer to print the coursework for one of the bullies as she pitied him for not being able to afford a printer at home.

This form of emotional bullying leaves no physical scar but it hurts as deep.

I shudder to think what would happen to my daughter if I had not noticed the change in her from a cheerful and helpful teenager to one who kept to herself and seldom smiled.

I would like to thank the PK Pentadbiran for his great help in making sure my daughter is able to sit for her examination without enduring the sarcastic looks and remarks from the bullies.

His handling of the situation was really admirable without prejudicing either side.

I was rather worried when I complained to the school because if the school chose not to believe us, then we would be in deep trouble both with the school and the bullies.

This, I believe is the main reason most victims do not dare to speak up.

However, I hope teachers will not be mere bystanders but make an effort to understand the situation and render assistance where necessary.

Remember most of us are parents. Teachers’ children might be safe studying in the schools their parents teach but who is to know what happens when they are elsewhere?

So teachers should look out for their students just like they would their own children and not turn the other way so as not to jeopardise whatever they have.



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