Dear Dr G,
I am in my early 40s and work in the financial industry.
Judging from the turbulence in the market in the last quarter of 2018, I am expecting 2019 to be challenging and unpredictable.
For me, in my New Year resolution, I am setting my mind on something a bit more predictable and within my control.
I am not focusing on keeping healthy or making more money. I have a peculiar wish - more sex in 2019!
I think my wife and I have grown apart as we are neglecting the bedroom matters.
My job is taking up a lot of my time and the kids are consuming most of my wife’s energy.
As a result, we barely have sex once a month. Even that, it often takes a bit of effort.
I told my wife about my New Year’s resolution. She was quite shocked.
My wife thinks too much sex at our age is harmful, and I should accept that active sex life is just a thing of the past!
I would like to put Dr G on the spot in this New Year, about the risks and benefits of having more sex in the 40s.
Is having too much sex bad for the heart and the kidney?
I also read somewhere that too much ejaculation reduces the risk of cancer. Surely that is just a joke?
As we are only in the first week of the New Year, I am hoping to get some encouragement and tips on how to embark on a red hot sizzling New Year in the bedroom (and hopefully, occasionally outside the bedroom too!)
On that note, wishing Dr G a Happy New Year!
It doesn’t take a genius to tell you that more sex is fun! Contrary to eastern myths, individuals with more sex have proven to live longer, have a healthier heart and lower rates of certain cancers.
In a British study, men who had sex twice a week were noted to live longer than men who had sex less than once a month. The same study also revealed people who had intercourse twice a week were less likely to have fatal coronary events.
Another study from Biological Psychology demonstrated that more sexually active subjects have less hypertension and less fluctuating blood pressure.
A French study revealed that women who have frequent vaginal intercourse have three time less chances of breast cancer.
On the other hand, a Minnesota study found men who had intercourse 3,000 times in their lives have half the risk of prostate cancer compared with those who had not.
Benjamin Franklin once said: “How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them!”
In busy urbanite lifestyle, there are always other priorities in life that takes precedence over bedroom matters.
Having no time, no energy and too much sex being risky at certain age are certainly excuses many would put forward when the passion diminishes.
When Dr G is put on the spot by men who want to reignite the passion between the sheets, especially in the new dawn of the 2019, his advice is: “Those who have courage to accept their diminishing sex lives should focus on the benefits of sex on their physical and mental health."
On that note, set realistic goals for 2019!