How often do you spend time with your family?
SOMETIMES in life, we tend to get carried away with all the work and responsibilities we have on our plate. It could be assignments, work deadlines or even the dirty dishes piled up in the sink. But no matter how hard you try, there’s always going to be one thing after another that distracts you from what is really important.
We’ve all made the same mistake of waiting until it’s too late. More often than not, many have passed the changing point in their lives and have to live with regrets.
These are among the top five regrets you will probably experience in your lifetime if you’re not careful.
Not following your dreams
Ahh, here’s the cliché regret that we’ve all heard of. But it’s true and it happens. We all know at least one person who didn’t follow through with their dreams, whether it’s owning their own business or travelling around the world simply because fear got the best of them. Instead, they opted for the safer option and stayed on to feel the sense of security.
Have you come across stories about individuals quitting their 9 to 5 jobs to pursue their dreams? Well, try finding out how they did it and take a chance after doing some planning and research beforehand. Although the outcome isn’t guaranteed, at least you won’t constantly live life thinking about “what if”.
Not living in the moment
Surely many have heard this saying before: “You’re not living in the moment”. But what does it mean? Well, are you the type to dwell on the past or worry about the future? Do you find yourself in a constant state of worry? That means you’re not living in the moment. And that’s no way to live life.
Learn to focus on the positive things that are in the present now and don’t worry too much about things you have no control over. Remember to concentrate on what you are able to do and change now. One thing for sure is whenever you worry about the past or think of the future, it almost never makes you happier than you are. So be in the moment of things and on the plus side, you’ll also find it easier to fall asleep at night.
Not burying the hatchet with a friend or loved one
Do you have that one friend whom you were close to but somewhere along the lines, a petty disagreement soured your relationship? And years passed, you both have grown reluctant to bury the hatchet and let your ego be in control. Someday, when you finally decided to get in touch again, he's passed away, leaving you a lifetime of guilt and sorrow of not being able to make peace and say goodbye.
Don’t let this be you. Learn from others' mistakes and be the bigger person today, even though it might not have been your fault at the time. Reconcile your relationship while you still can and hey, isn’t it always better to have an extra friend than a foe?
Not expressing your true feelings
How often do you say “I love you” or give hugs to your loved ones? My guess is rarely. For some reason, Malaysians have had difficulties in expressing their true feelings and showing their emotions, always suppressing it because that was how their parents treated them too.
While it’s true that old habits die hard, you can start off by expressing more gratitude and simply saying “thank you” more often. You’ll be surprised how underused those two words are as we often take things for granted. Slowly your parents would become more receptive to a new, expressive “you” and hopefully do the same too.
Not spending enough time with your family
“Ma, I can’t make it for dinner tonight.” “Pa, I’ll help you in the garden next time.” Sounds familiar? These are the frequent scenarios in most households, where the children are all grown up and have less time to spend with their family.
That, however, doesn’t have to be you. Finding a balance for everything in life will prove beneficial to your mind, body and soul. You can live a completely different life because the power and time lies in your hands. Make a change today and #ActNow. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
#ActNow is a campaign that encourages people to show their affection to their loved ones before it’s too late. Join local celebrities and inspiring personalities as they share their messages of love through a series of videos. To listen to what they have to say about #ActNow, visit here.
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