Roles according to ability, not gender

Dynamic duo: Lim supports her husband Harith’s career as his manager, and both are very much invested in raising their children.

Dynamic duo: Lim supports her husband Harith’s career as his manager, and both are very much invested in raising their children.

PETALING JAYA: Celebrity couple Harith Iskander and Dr Jezamine Lim’s relationship is not based on traditional gender roles.

Lim works as Harith’s manager, while both she and Harith are equally invested in raising their children.

While some traditional roles do exist in their relationship, it is not because of tradition, but because one person is better at something than the other.

“I love cooking and preparing meals. On the other hand, Harith takes care of remembering things like anniversaries because I am hopeless at that. I also hate driving but he loves it. At the end of the day, each family is different, and you need to find what works for you,” said Lim.

In the past, roles in a relationship were mostly determined by gender but things are not the same anymore as society embraces new perceptions.

“I don’t think those rules have applied for a long time. We tend to take on roles based on reference and requirement rather than because it’s ‘tradition’,” said Harith in an interview.

“I do understand in society there might still be large pockets of groups that subscribe to this notion. But what I think is more important is to change the belief that the role of a housewife is less than or subservient to that of someone who works ‘outside’,” added Lim.

Come catch more of Harith and Lim’s insights at the Women’s Fiesta this Sunday at The Starling Mall, Damansara Uptown, held in conjunction with The Star’s WOW-Women do Wonders campaign. They join two other couples – beauty queen-turned-model and actress Kavita Sidhu and geologist/businessman Roberto Guiati, and entrepreneurs Timothy Tiah and Audrey Ooi – in the #HeForShe Couples session.

The three couples will share how their relationships have enabled them to thrive in their careers and at home, and as individuals and families. The husbands and wives will share the values they believe in, and their respective roles and perspectives.

AirAsia and Mah Sing are the main partners of The Star’s WOW-Women do Wonders campaign, with SASA as co-sponsor. For more details, go to Tag us #TheStarWOW2018.


Women’s Fiesta highlights:

March 10:

1. The “Empowering Women To Power The World” talks

Speakers: Yap Mun Ching (AirAsia Foundation executive director), Tunku Mona Riza (Redha, film director), Jenn Low (Wanderlust + Co founder), Dahlia Nadirah Juhari (SO.Lek founder) and Joyce Chuah (Success Concepts CEO)

2. Women & Wealth panel discussion

Speakers: Jane Leong (Mah Sing Group Berhad director of Group Strategy & Operations), Lee Jim Leng (Hong Leong Investment Bank GMD & CEO), Vicky How (Propedia Consultancy principal) and Christy Ng ( CEO)

March 11:

1. #HeForShe Couples Session

Featuring Harith Iskander and Dr Jezamine Lim, Kavitha Sidhu and Roberto Guiati, Timothy Tiah and Audrey Ooi Moderator: Linora Low

2. She’s Mercedes talk: Elaine Hew (Mercedes-Benz Malaysia GM, marketing communications)

3. Special appearance: Chan Fong (entrepreneur and radio announcer)

Attendance is free for all talks, just register at Walk-ins are also welcome.

Fun activities: zumba, muay thai, capoeira and samba sessions. Learn: gardening workshops, cooking demonstrations, talks on feng shui and kebaya jewellery. Shop: 150 vendors and exhibitors at the fiesta. Win: 4,000 double win cards. A double win card gets a mystery gift and a chance to win a lucky prize. Stamp your cards at the participating exhibitor booths. Prizes: RM85,000 worth of prizes. Lucky draw prizes include five AirAsia Asean passes, Aery Jo make-up courses, Body Shop hampers, Parkson vouchers and Braun Buffel products.