Bullying is a malaise that has permeated the fabric of society and cannot be condoned.
From schools, colleges and universities to workplaces, everyone has a story about bullying to tell. We must put a stop to this once and for all.
Previously, under the guise of orientation, the word “ragging” was used instead of bullying, though it involved the same kind of treatment where student victims were harassed and humiliated.
No one should ever be subjected to such degrading experiences when setting foot in an educational institution to gain knowledge and wisdom.
With the administration of harsh disciplinary actions, including expulsion, ragging has been contained to a certain extent.
The root of the problem
Bullying often stems from a child’s home environment. Parents therefore play an important role in preventing their child from becoming a bully. They must show equal love and affection to all their children and ensure no bullying takes place among siblings.
Human nature is such that when we feel cared for, we reciprocate that kindness to others.
Bullies are often those who were themselves victims of bullying when they were younger. As they grow up, they end up doing the same thing to others who are vulnerable just as they once were – the victims then become the bullies.
At learning institutions, especially boarding schools, it is crucial that a strong stance against bullying is made loud and clear to all students from the start.
Students must be warned of expulsion and the dire consequences of their actions.
It should be impressed upon them that the reason they are in an educational institution is to seek knowledge and wisdom; it is a launching pad to propel them to a successful career.
School heads must ensure that their staff and wardens are always on the lookout for telltale signs of bullying and targeted victims.
This malaise needs to be nipped in the bud to prevent untoward incidents. We must protect our children.
If there is reason to suspect that bullying is taking place, the perpetrators must be pulled aside and referred for counselling immediately.
The responsibility of school heads is no doubt heavy. It cannot be shouldered by one person alone; it must be shared by all members of the institution.
When students realise that the school means business, they will soon understand the consequences of violating rules and bullying their peers.
It is better to prevent acts of bullying rather than to take action on the bully only after someone has been hurt – or worse, has died.
Students often act out when they are cooped up without avenues to express themselves.
Some resort to mischief simply out of boredom. The adage “An idle mind is a devil’s workshop” should be taken seriously.
Schools must ensure that students have character-building activities to keep them engaged.
Everyone – parents, school authorities and students themselves – must be vigilant at all times if we are to keep our children safe.
THIAGAN MATHIAPARANAM
Retired teacher
Klang
