When children misbehave

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  • Tuesday, 23 Aug 2005

PARENTS should develop a “third ear” to listen to non-verbal cues from their children. 

Consultant child, adolescent and family psychiatrist Dr Zas-mani Shafiee said parents must bear in mind that their children have a reason for their beha- viour. 

Dr Zasmani cited examples of children misbehaving to gain attention, to display their frustration at inadequacy or for revenge. 

“Sometimes, misbehaviour is a symptom of a power struggle as the child wants to show his or her parents who the boss is,” she added. 

Dr Zasmani also stressed that it was important for parents to listen to their children. 

“Be an effective listener by staying calm, being silent, giving mutual respect and monito- ring the tone of your voice and what you say,” she said in her talk on ‘Being a Good Enough Parent’. 

Supanee(right)demonstrating how to prepare nutritious food for babies.

Dr Zasmani was one of the five speakers at a Positive Parenting seminar, organised by Malaysian Paediatric Association (MPA), on Saturday in Penang.  

About 300 people attended the half-day seminar, themed ‘Total Care For Your Child’. 

Emphasising a holistic ap-proach to children’s health and wellness, the seminar covered topics ranging from pregnancy and birth to the nutrition, healthcare, development and psychology of babies. 

Dr Zasmani described parenting as a “job” to meet the physical, psychological, intellectual and spiritual needs of the children. 

Another speaker Dr Suresh Kumarasamy, an obstetrician and gynaecologist, said pre-pregnancy tests should be carried out to ensure that the mother-to-be was in good health to avoid any complication during pregnancy. 

“Some of the medical conditions that doctors look into are diabetes, kidney and heart diseases and genetic condi- tion,” he said in his talk on ‘Journeying Safely from Preg-nancy to Birth’. 

Other speakers were dieti- cian Supanee Sararaks from the Nutrition Society of Malaysia, who spoke on ‘Baby’s Nutrition: From Birth to the First Birth- day’, consultant paediatrician Datuk Dr N. Paramaesvaran with his talk on ‘Common Childhood Problems’ and consultant paediatric neurologist Dr Hussain Imam Muhammad Ismail who spoke on ‘Detecting Learning Disabili- ties and Other Developmental Problems’. 

Also present was MPA pre-sident and Positive Parenting Management Committee chairman Prof Dr Zulkifli Ismail. 

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