In fact, this thing called love is subjective that there is no written rule on how it should be best expressed.
Some make it a point to express their love and gratitude towards those they love on Valentine’s Day.
However, many people believe that love should be shared and expressed with loved ones everyday. StarMetro looks at 10 ways to keep love alive all year round.
1. Offer help by sharing duties
Do not hesitate to extend help. Do not wait to be asked. Sometimes couples assume certain roles are decided by gender. It is time we get rid of gender based roles such as cooking, cleaning, running errands, plumbing and helping out with the children. Wives can learn to change the light bulb and husbands can take on the task of cleaning the house.
2. Unwind together
Holidays are a great way to spend time together. Opt for holidays that are relaxing and enables you to share time with your partner. Sometimes we can be so tied up with work that we may forget to spend time with our loved ones. Holidays do not have to expensive. Be creative and think of ways to spend quality time together.
3. Always look on the bright side
With the less robust economy some may have lost their jobs. Think of ways to ease the pain for your partner. Stop complaining over the retrenchment and encourage your partner to look for other jobs. Help to compose a more attractive resume. Talk about ways to kick start a new business if this is possible. Speak of all the skills and talents that your partner has acquired from all the years of working.
4. Remember special occasions
It is important to remember your partner’s birthday and important anniversary dates. Make some effort to celebrate the day. A celebration does not have to be expensive but make it a meaningful occasion. A simple home baked cake, candles and a birthday song will bring loads of joy to your partner. Making the effort to celebrate an occasion will send across the positive message that you care about your relationship.
5. Supporting each other’s aspirations
It is easy to dream and share our goals with the one we love. However, not many will have the support needed for these goals to materialise because of the lack of encouragement. If your partner is passionate in pursuing a good cause, do lend support. It is easy to assume that one partner is the leader in the relationship while the other may play the supporting role. Play the opposite role once in awhile. All small achievements matters. Be generous with compliments.
6. Respect the in-laws
Some may love their in-laws while others may loathe them. This love hate relationship with the in-laws is a touchy subject to many families. However, the best way to make peace with the in-laws is to have some respect for them. They are your partner’s parents and you have to be part of their lives, at least, for important occasions. This will mean a great deal to your partner.
7. Take interest in each other’s hobbies
Hobbies are personal and it may not be to the liking of one partner. However, if you want to be in a long term relationship you have to be interested in their hobbies. It may mean the world to your partner if you can spare some time to understand and appreciate their hobbies. You do not have to share the same passion but show an interest.
Arguments are bound to happen in any relationship. It can be a dispute between children and their parents, couples, siblings and even close friends. The best thing to do when you know you have made a mistake is to apologise. Sorry is indeed the hardest word to utter when we are in a heated argument. But take a step back, ponder over the problem, own up and say sorry. Be sincere when you apologise.
9. Respecting each other’s privacy
We live in a more tech savvy world now compared to two decades ago. Most of us spend a lot of time on social media. When you are in a relationship with someone, it is best passwords and your social circle conversations are kept personal. This is to allow some form of respect for your partner. Do allow some breathing space between yourselves.
10. Be understanding
It is great if we can put our problems and unhappiness aside and be more understanding with the significant other. Partners who are understanding can build a harmonious environment at home. Sometimes we just have to adapt to situations instead of throwing a big fuss. This may encourage our partners to follow suit when the situation arises.