Kim Kardashian tweeted about this man’s blog, and he went from living in a pool house to becoming a successful author.
MASTIN Kipp wants you to be happy. But there’s a catch – you have to be willing to do the work.
“Most of us know deep down what we want in life, but very few of us actually have the courage to act on it,” Kipp says during a promotional tour in the United States for his new book, DailyLove: Growing Into Grace (Hay House, September 2014).
Kipp, 32, has had his share of ups and downs. A music industry executive at age 21, Kipp eventually lost his job and his home, battling drug addiction and finding himself living in a 2.5m-by-2.5m pool house in Los Angeles. After he blogged and tweeted about his experiences on the website he created, TheDailyLove.com, his luck changed when TV celebrity Kim Kardashian tweeted about his site in 2009.
Today, Kipp has more than 500,000 Twitter followers and travels the world teaching others to “trust your gut and apply it”. Following is a quick chat with Kipp.
You’re open about your struggles with addiction and losing direction.
I’m here to be an educator. That’s all I am. I’m an open book.
What helped get you on the right path?
When everything was going wrong for me, I went out and found certain teachers that I thought were the real deal, and they became sort of my mentors from afar. ... For me, Caroline Myss was one of those persons who, when I was at my rock bottom, she nurtured me back to health through her audio (tapes) and her books.
But you don’t want anyone to put gurus on a pedestal.
One of the things we do as human beings is we outsource our power to the guru because it’s safer, because then we don’t have to take action and we don’t have to take responsibility for our choices. It’s a really dangerous thing to do because that’s how cults start – because people outsource that power. When you think your teachers are perfect, you set yourself up to fail.
Do you ever feel like you aren’t enough?
All the time! I remember one of the most nerve-racking experiences in my life was taping (the Oprah Winfrey TV series) Super Soul Sunday. I remember thinking “Why am I here? I should not be here.” And I’m about to go on with Oprah as an “expert”, right? So then we go on, and I blank out for the entire interview. I don’t really remember what I said. I thought it must have been terrible. ... And the whole team was celebrating about how great the taping went. ... So I think we’re all wondering, “Am I enough?” at some point.
You say jealousy is a good thing. Why?
Jealousy has been one of my greatest teachers. People say to me all the time, “Mastin, I don’t know what I want to do,” and I will say “Look at who you’re jealous of. That’s what you want to do.” Jealousy is other people embodying your potential. We tend to say, “Oh, I hate them for having that,” instead of saying, “Thank you for showing me the way. Now let’s go do something about that now.”
What do you mean when you say people should live a fearful life?
People say live a fearless life – but to live a “fearless” life is to stay in your comfort zone. Any time there’s a major expansion in your life, there’s fear. (Say you want) to leave a toxic relationship or start a new job or give up drinking. This is scary stuff. We need courage to do these things. Every person I’ve ever met knows the choice that would be best for them. Most of them lack the courage to make that choice. Caroline Myss said it best: “You don’t need a wishbone. You need a backbone.”
How do you advise people to find their passion?
I say, “If it wasn’t about how famous you could be or how much recognition you can get, what would you do?” And then I tell them to act on that. We all have multiple things that we’re passionate about, but I think (you) should go deep on the one that scares you the most, and commit and go all in and really see what’s underneath that hood. Because that level of commitment doesn’t happen as fast as a tweet or a text. It takes time to build a career. In order to be anything we have to believe in ourselves and focus on service and contribution and take it one day at a time and see what shows up. — Chicago Tribune/McClatchy-Tribune Information Services