Being kinder to yourself doesn’t mean you’re being self indulgent

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For some time now, I’ve been racking my brains over the question why so many people struggle with self-compassion or being kinder to themselves. Just mentioning the words “self-compassion” can make some people cringe or recoil at the mere thought they could reduce the inner voice that’s often critical and rarely content.

“Be kinder to yourself” is a wonderful idea and there’s plenty of research to suggest that people who are self-compassionate enjoy a range of benefits from the practice. If you’re self-compassionate, rather than being lazy or indulgent – a common misconception – you’re likely to be more responsible and accountable. Studies have found that self-compassion improves relationships, reduces anxiety and stress, develops greater resilience, and increases motivation.