It's Valentine’s Day! The romantic ones are all a-flutter, the newly in love are in great anticipation, while the mellowed ones are resigned to whatever the day may (or may not) bring. The cynics are of course mightily amused by all this wishy-washy stuff, remarking on the huge benefits the commercial quarters will reap from such a celebration.
Valentines come in varied forms: verbose or vibrant, venerated or vetoed. Below are some observations on romantic love and the impact it has on the lives it touches.
I am not a cynic on this matter, for I enjoy the stuff romance is made of – the poetry, the songs and dedications. And I have had bellyful laughs at some humorous and witty poems written for this occasion.
Love is blind, love makes the world go round (no wonder those struck get giddy-headed). Love has been blamed for sudden illogical changes in the afflicted ones, but also credited for inspiring great poetic outlets. And falling in love at first sight has been called the greatest time-saver!
Words certainly play an effective part though works, not words, should be the ultimate proof of true love. Nevertheless, people continue to woo and win with words alone – through prettily patterned cards, a poem with personal touches ... and some dedications lavishly displayed on banners or posters!
There is no end to defining love and here are some insights on love, sources unknown:
True love doesn’t consist of holding hands; it consists of holding hearts.
Nothing kills love like an overdose of it.
Love is the fire of life; it either consumes or purifies.
Through the ages, some thinkers have tried to analyse the concept of love, albeit somewhat roguishly:
Love is an ocean of emotions, entirely surrounded by expenses. (Lord Dewar)
Love is the irresistible desire to be desired irresistibly. (Loius Ginsberg)
I am not one of those who do not believe in love at first sight, but I believe in taking a second look. (H. Vincent)
It has found expression in proverbs too:
Where there is love, there is pain. (Spanish proverb)
Love makes the time pass. Time makes the love pass. (French proverb)
The greatest love is a mother’s love; then comes a dog’s; then comes the sweetheart’s. (Polish proverb)
From all that we have seen read or heard, there is no lack of caution and advice to the lovelorn (who may by now be somewhat myopic and a little deaf as well) and those who take love for granted. Especially now, during the passage of the pandemic, we, one and all, need to sit back and re-assess how we have appreciated or ignored the genuine loving care around us ... and be enriched by sharing or reciprocating it in whatever way we can.
May the Valentines you receive make your day! (And if you don’t receive any, don’t let that spoil your day – there must be special Valentines already stored in your chest of lovely memories!)