Dear Thelma: To tell, or not to tell?

I’M a 23-year-old male student. My dilemma began years ago after the death of my older brother, leaving me as the only male grandchild for both my father’s and mother’s side of the family.

In a Chinese family, there is always a heavy responsibility placed on the sons of the family to carry on the family name (especially if the grandchild is the only remaining male heir of the family).