Can't keep up with all your parental responsibilities? Cut yourself some slack

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  • Sunday, 02 Aug 2020

If a parent is feeling overwhelmed or burnt out for a long time, it’s a good idea for them to seek out professional help from a counsellor. — dpa

Whether it’s because of Covid-19, an illness or just something else that has you down, for parents, it’s tough when you don’t have enough energy to be there for your child 100%.

However, parents shouldn’t worry too much about these low phases.

“Quality comes before quantity,” says Dana Mundt, a social worker with the German Conference for Education Counselling’s online arm.

If a parent is lacking the energy for a long day at the zoo or a visit to the playground, then they can instead look for small, beautiful moments with their children, e.g. the nightly bedtime story or a trip to the local ice cream parlour for a treat.

Friends or neighbours could also help parents when they’re feeling overwhelmed by taking the children out to the playground, for example.

Parents should certainly try to plan such breaks and not feel guilty about them.

“Constant stress can make you sick,” says Mundt.

Only parents who take care of themselves can also take good care of their children.

When energy levels are at their very lowest, parents shouldn’t stress when things aren’t completely perfect.

So what if the dishes have piled up in the sink or the bathroom isn’t spotless for a bit?

Mundt encourages parents to be aware of their own limits: “If you have the feeling of being empty and burnt out, or that your nerves are at their limit, it’s good and right to get help.

“It has nothing to do with failure.”

Counselling is available in many forms, she says, including online, over the phone or at local centres. – dpa

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