The matrilineal advantage — known as the emotional closeness and stronger bond that children tend to have with their mothers and their mother’s side of the family — has shaped families for generations.
Traditionally, fathers have been viewed as providers, while mothers have been seen as nurturers who manage their children’s routines, education and emotional needs. Because of this, the mother's side of the family naturally becomes more prominent in a child’s emotional world, explains certified family therapist Bawany Chinapan.
But, as gender roles evolve, so too does the meaning of family closeness.
Rebalancing these traditional roles helps to make families stronger as both mum and dad share the caregiving and parenting, she says.
Bawany offers a few practical ways families can foster this balance:
1. Equal grandparent time
Make sure both sides of the family are included in caregiving, holidays, and celebrations.
2. Shared parenting from the start
Involve fathers early — during pregnancy, confinement, and infancy.
3. Challenge stereotypes at home
Let kids see both parents cook, comfort, and discipline.
4. Value both legacies
Share stories and traditions from both sides of the family so children feel a connection to both lineages.
Source: Bawany Chinapan
