Dear Thelma: I’m an adult but my mum still wants to control my life

Letter No.1

I am 21. My parents divorced when I was a few months old, and my mum has looked after me since. Then my mum went abroad to work when I was one-year-old, so I lived with my grandma and aunt’s family. When I attended college, I moved out; at the time, mum agreed to it. But now, whatever I want to do, I have to ask permission from mum although I can think for myself what is good or bad. She won’t give me the right to make my own decisions. She wants to plan my life. I don’t want to live like this. She doesn’t know the real me. She just wants me to stay the way she chooses. I don’t know what to do.