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Wednesday July 13, 2005

3Ts men who desire more than one wife

THERE is apparently a huge pool of men out there known as 3Ts, the Dewan was told. 

It stands for “teringin tapi takut” – men who desire for more than one wife but are not polygamous for fear of not being able to act justly. 

Idris Haron (BN – Tangga Batu) said many Muslim men were believed to fall under the 3T category. 

In jest, he conceded that he, too, was a 3T. 

Women, he said, should also be blamed because some of them preferred to court married men. 

“It surely takes two to tango. How can a man disappoint a woman if she professes her liking for him? Otherwise, she would cry,” he said during the debate on the Syariah Criminal Procedure (Federal Territories) Bill. 

Chong Eng (DAP – Bukit Mertajam), while agreeing with his remarks that some women were partly to blame, said married men must keep in mind their marriage vows and responsibility. 

“Men should tell the other woman about their marital status. Otherwise, what are you going to do if there are 1,000 women who want to marry you?” she asked. 

Fong Po Kuan (DAP – Batu Gajah) said statistics showed that there were more women than men aged between 65 and 75 years old. 

“Men should then take wives from this age category,” suggested Fong to hoots of the laughter from the MPs. 

Datuk Bung Mokhtar Radin (BN - Kinabatangan) cut in, saying: “Mana boleh. Siapa mahu?” (That’s not possible. Who wants to do that?) 

“Maybe YB Ipoh Timor (Lim Kit Siang) would want someone from that age,” he added. 

Fong proposed that the Government review the amendments to the Islamic Family Law Enactment to ensure that those who practised polygamy were capable of being fair towards each of their wives. 

Salahudin Ayob (PAS – Kubang Kerian) said polygamy should be looked at on a case-by-case basis, adding that justice was most important. 

Winding up, Minister in the Prime Minister’s Department Datuk Abdullah Md Zain said not all polygamy cases were allowed by the Syariah court. 

The court had to be satisfied that the man would be able to provide for each of his wives and act justly towards them, he said.  


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