THE term ‘relationship’ covers four different types of bonds: casual, friendships, romantic and familial. Forging positive, healthy relationships with others can help us feel happier and allow us to be more satisfied with our lives.
Technology and relationships
In this age of technology, people often complain about the loss of communication ruining relationships. A common grouse is that people spend more time on their phones rather than socialising and communicating with one another.
While that sentiment may ring true for some, many more would say that technology has actually made it easier to make friends.
With the help of technology, we can easily connect with others or even befriend someone from across the globe. It has also become easier for us to stay in touch with one another.
Naysayers insist that even if technology makes things easier, people have become obsessively glued to their gadgets. How many people would actually be willing to part with their phones to spend time with others?
According to the Prudential 2016 Relationship Index, 91 percent of Malaysians who participated in the survey would willingly give up their phones in favour of quality time with friends and family.
This shows that while Malaysians may love their technology, they’re not completely addicted to them. Many Malaysians would happily give them up for what truly matters: a deeper connection with friends and family.
Forging healthy, happy relationships
There’s a saying that laughter is the shortest distance between two people; there is some truth to that. Regardless of whether the relationship is with your partner, your child or your friends, laughter plays a vital part in them.
Malaysians in happy, healthy romantic relationships say that they often laugh with their partners. In families, laughter helps parents build close relationships with their children. An important thing to remember though is that you should laugh with the other party rather than at them.
Did you know that 83 percent of Malaysians who participated in the survey believe that their partners express love for them? That’s seven percent higher than the average in Asia!
This shows that Malaysians are a bunch of loving and expressive individuals who recognise the value of cultivating relationships.
Expressing your love and affection for someone isn’t restricted to verbal communication; many express it through their actions. Small things like your parents doing your chores, or your partner cooking your favourite dishes are some ways where love is expressed through actions rather than words.
As with most relationships, honesty is a key factor in a positive, mutually beneficial relationship with anyone. Malaysian parents appreciate it when their children are honest with them as are couples who value honesty between each other.
Another important trait that Malaysians look out for, according to the survey, is someone who is easy to get along with. Being difficult in relationships with your family, friends, or partners can create problems that can get out of hand if it’s not dealt with.
The survey also found that Malaysians believe that respect is important in a relationship. It’s important to respect your partner’s individuality. When couples do not respect one another, it’s a sign that the relationship is in trouble.
Why couples argue
Results from the survey show that the most common causes of arguments among couples are primarily money, children and inattentiveness.
Everyone knows that handling finances can be very stressful. Differences in spending habits, saving habits and attitude towards money can create a lot of tension between couples.
Children are bundles of joy, but there are times when they cause arguments. Couples can fight over their children’s bad behaviour, differences in disciplining them, and differences in raising them.
Lastly, do you pay attention to your partner? Well, you should. Thirty-two per cent of respondents said that inattentiveness were one of the most common causes of arguments.
When couples don’t pay attention to what the other is saying, it shows a sign of disrespect for the other’s opinion. As such, this will lead to resentment and anger towards the inattentive party.