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STUDIES have shown that children with autism can be diagnosed as early as two years old, but it is often difficult for families to come to terms with the diagnosis. These are the stages most people go through, and some ways to deal with the emotions.
During the initial stages, being in denial is perfectly understandable, but don’t let it get in the way of taking action. Don’t deny your child the help he needs to overcome any symptom he’s expressing.
An overwhelming guilt is what most parents feel when they first discover their child is autistic. You may always wonder if there was anything that you could’ve done to prevent the situation. Channel your energy into getting help for your child instead.
There will always be risks involved in having a child. Passing around blame serves no useful function and can strain the marriage.
Feeling angry isn’t always a bad thing.
Channeling your anger towards appropriate and useful action can sometimes help in conquering a challenge.
But if your kind of anger makes you sullen and resentful towards people who are trying to help, then get help.
Many parents with autistic children prefer to stay away from social situations for fear that their child will act out in public. This starts a bad cycle: the effect of social isolation is that your child won’t learn how to behave in social situations. And as his behaviour in social situations deteriorates, the parents will feel even more compelled to stay home.
It’s a slow climb, but learn to get control over the problem behaviours. Try to create as many positive social opportunities as you can so your child can learn and grow.
Get external help if you must, so you and your spouse can also have alone time together.
Feeling depressed is to be expected, though most parents find that their initial feelings of hopelessness lift once they plunge into actively seeking interventions for their child.
Uncertainty and inactivity can be very depressing but when you start taking the necessary steps to improve your child’s symptoms, you might just pull through and feel optimistic again.
> Source: Familyeducation.com.
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