Keeping the old games going

John Tan’s tiny hands are busy filling up a miniature steel pot with a medley of flowers and leaves, plucked fresh from the organic garden in his backyard.

“Mummy, come see what I’m making,” the six-year-old shouts excitedly.

Jasmin Choy looks on with a smile, as she helps her other son, four-year-old Ethan, pour some dried pasta bits into a pan.

The trio is playing masak-masak, a pretend cooking game. It’s a game Choy used to play growing up, when children and outdoor activities were one, and computers didn’t figure in their routines.

“I try to introduce my kids to some old school fun just to get them off electronic stuff. I’ve noticed when they play with their iPad and computer games, they tend to focus very much on themselves; they don’t learn to interact with each other,” says Choy, 40.

The homemaker’s family is one among the few who are introducing traditional games to their children.

“I used to live in Kulim, Kedah, and we’d play games like batu tujuh and lompat getah over and over again during recess and after school. When my cousins were around we would play card games like Donkey and Old Maid. We spent hours playing those games and we were happy.

“With kids today, everything is moving at such a fast pace. You have no choice but to enforce an electronic-free day once in a while. They’ll experience withdrawal symptoms of course, and a lot of parents will usually give in once their children start screaming or crying. But if you just stand your ground, sooner or later the kids will be so bored they’ll find other sources of entertainment on their own. But you really have to open their eyes to that possibility,” she adds.

“Initially, when I taught my boys how to play board games like Snakes and Ladders, they’d fight over who’s cheating or whose turn it was. But they knew I wouldn’t let them continue the game unless they learnt to play nice, so they were forced to get along with each other.”

To help her sons relate better to the game, Choy uses a modern Transformers-themed Snakes and Ladders board.

“They were receptive to the game, but it wasn’t something that I could leave them to play on their own. I had to sit there to play with them,” Choy observes.

The mother of two feels that modern parents are not sharing enough playtime with their kids.

“I think a lot of parents are taking the easy way out – they work such long hours that when they come home, they just want some time to themselves. So the iPad has become a babysitting tool,” says Choy who admits she is also guilty of relying on electronic gadgets to keep her kids occupied whenever she has her hands full preparing dinner.

“I think the games we used to play are more relevant today than ever because a lot of children, as young as Year One, have tuition all day. They don’t have enough playtime as it is.”

Choy runs a Facebook group, Malaysia Education Info, which encourages parents not to give kids too much tuition but instead, inculcate more playtime in their schedules.

“My friends and I try to meet up once a week and we’d take the kids out on a playdate to FRIM (Forest Research Institute Malaysia in Kepong, Kuala Lumpur). We’d have a picnic by this big grassy area and just let the kids play by themselves. They’d come up with their own games, which is how it’s always been done. They’ll play catch and run around – not once have they asked for an iPad or iPhone. When they played, they were actually thinking of how to do better. They’d also learn how to set goals. I doubt they find traditional games boring. To them, it’s just another game. It’s only boring if they sit around and have nothing else to do.”

Extending traditions

When Sagayah Mary Puttagunta was growing up, she had hours of fun playing a range of hands-on games with her young neighbours.

“I grew up in the outskirts of KL – my father worked for the Agricultural Ministry and we stayed in a village with other Chinese, Indian and Malay families. We used to play kites, games like galah panjang, lompat getah, batu seremban and congkak,” Sagayah, 35, recalls.

The IT engineer is intent on passing on her passion for traditional games to her three children, aged four, two and nine months.

“I started off teaching them the concept of peek-a-boo and later when my older kids could run, I taught them how to play hide-and-seek. At first, they couldn’t understand the game so I had to show them how it’s done. I would be counting along with my son while my parents would be scrambling along with my daughter to hide. My daughter is two but she already knows what hide-and-seek means.”

When her children are a little older, she hopes to introduce them to more games. “My husband and I work in the IT industry so we understand how addictive technology is. We grew up playing in the drain and mud, and we turned out fine. Kids must touch and feel, and that’s vastly different from the simulation mode offered in computer systems. From my experience, if you expose your children to traditional games first, they’d take to them easily. If they’re more familiar with the iPad, then they’d be a bit reluctant to try anything else.”

Sagayah believes that traditional games are no longer a staple entertainment at home simply because modern parents do not have the time and patience to teach their kids how to appreciate such games.

“My sister-in-law taught her two daughters to play batu seremban and congkak because she loved those games as a child. I think as long as there are parents who are willing to share their love for these games with their children, the tradition will never be forgotten.”

Cross-cultural exposure

Stay-at-home mum Ashley Ho, 33, remembers how simple playtime was during her childhood.

“My parents lived in a flat and there was this courtyard where all the children from the different floors would gather and play together. We would play lompat getah, tai chi, teng teng and soldiers and robbers.

“When someone learnt a new game from their cousins, they’d bring it to school and share it with the rest of their friends. We picked up different languages along the way. I went to a national school but I knew how to play certain games in Mandarin.

“It was so simple back then – just as long as we had one friend we could make a game out of anything. We could have hours of fun with just some rubber bands, and by plucking leaves we could play masak-masak – there was a lot of creativity involved.”

While she’d have to wait to introduce her daughter, two-year-old Kaylene Ho Manickam, to the wonders of traditional games, Ho has since passed on some of her knowledge to her young cousins.

“I used to play congkak in school and I really loved it. I bought this wooden set from Kota Baru and put it on display at home. When my cousins came over for a visit one day, they asked me what it was – they were curious because they had never seen something like that before. I showed them how to play the game and before long, they started to show their competitive spirit and kept trying to figure out how to ‘beat’ each other in each round,” says Ho, who was pleased she shared something she once loved with her cousins.