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The writer feels that true friends will always be there for you. It’s true for Bikini Bottom duo Spongebob SquarePants and Patrick Star, isn’t it? — RAYMOND OOI/The Star
When you’re down in the dumps, real friends show their true colours and pull you through.
WHAT would you do if you lost something important? What would you do if promises were broken? If you were lost and needed direction? And if all the things you work so hard for didn’t result in anything? How would you react?
I’ve come to understand one thing in life: “the lowest point of life brings you back to the peak”.
People need to go through the highs and lows in life in order to become better. A “better person” is a big word, I realise. To me, it’s someone who can be calm and think logically all the time, and understand the emotions of others by showing empathy. Lessons in life are valuable; you can’t get them from books or schools. You learn from experience.
Broken promises, losing direction and wasted hard work – all these thing happened one Monday.
The week should have started well. But you can’t predict these sort of things. The more you count on good things happening, the likelier mistakes and misfortune will come your way.
My Monday morning started off fairly well. I was to attend a talk by a local guest, and go for my usual classes. Things started going wrong in the evening, when I shifted to another class. Along the way, I lost something essential and important, my handphone!
I only realised when I wanted to call a friend. I wasn’t nervous and I didn’t lose my mind or anything. My heart, however, did beat a little faster than usual and I began breathing heavily. I asked a friend to help me look for my phone but we couldn’t find it, so we reported the loss to the designated department in my university. Then I called my father to tell him about the missing phone so he could cut my mobile service.
The missing phone was not the only misfortune I had. I had an event to plan for that evening and there was very little communication between those involved. No one seemed to have taken notes the week before. I thought of cancelling, but my seniors didn’t allow this.
So then, we (my teammates) had to try to do the best we could and not bother too much about the outcome. But some things cannot be be achieved without proper commitment. Teamwork will never succeed without commitment from every member.
One of the members involved in the event had not shown up at all throughout the planning sessions. This person was someone I respected. After that Monday, inevitably, I began to re-evaluate my perception of this person.
Frustration took over as I felt this one person let the team down. I wasn’t angry as there was no point. We just had to embrace the circumstances. Since the team members had lost direction, we didn’t get the results we aimed for. But there was no use pointing fingers and blaming others. We just had to bear the consequences.
There was actually one member of the committee that I really want to thank.
There is always hope despite the darkest times. I am also grateful especially for my group of girlfriends who stuck by me through all of this.
These friends are really sincere people I met in my study programme. The girls and I share many light moments of laughing and chatting non-stop. I feel I can always be myself with them. That is how it should be with friends. My life at university would not be complete without these girls, the laughter, the sincerity, the help they lend and their tolerance towards me.
Two words from that Monday that stood out for me were “be calm” and “embrace”. That’s what I did. Seems easy, but when you try to act on it, it will never be easy. Emotions tend to overwhelm and mess up your judgment. At times like this, you will feel hopeless and wallow in despair. Do not give up that fast.
During low points in life, there are some kind souls who will come your way and give you the hope and help you need.
They are your friends, not just ordinary friends; they are your true friends. You love to have them, and they love to have you.
Once again, I want to say thank you to all the people in my life who give me hope in harsh times and make me feel comfortable being who I am. I will treasure these relationships always.
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