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by chu siew mei
Po Po, as she is fondly known, has an extraordinarily big heart.
The extent of
one woman’s unconditional love touches the lives of many around her.
MY friend Po Po is a 61-year-old ordinary woman with an extraordinarily big heart. Her heart is so full of contagious love that it spills over to everyone who crosses her path. I am one of those fortunate ones who have had a chance to know her from my church.
My first real encounter with Po Po was when I attended the funeral of her only daughter-in-law, May, more than a year ago. After battling with cancer for about a year, May went home to be with the Lord.
May’s untimely death was a great blow to Po Po. To see the way Po Po cried and anguished over the death of her beloved daughter-in-law, one would think that May was more of a beloved daughter rather than daughter-in-law.
Each time Po Po recalled and shared the memory of May’s life with me, the sadness in her heart was mirrored in her countenance. The extent of Po Po’s love for May was immeasurable.
From the very beginning, Po Po’s love for children was evident in her life. She had wanted to care for her two older grandchildren the moment they were born.
When May was diagnosed with cancer, Po Po took over the role of mother to see to all the needs of her two grandchildren and sick daughter-in-law, from cooking for them to fetching the kids for their various activities and disciplining them.
Po Po is the pillar of strength of the family. She helped bring up another two of her grandchildren when her two daughters returned to stay with her when their marriages failed.
After May’s death, all four grandchildren stayed with her. She wakes up early in the morning to prepare and send them to school. Sometimes, she would have to make several trips to school when one of the children forgets to bring an item. After cooking lunch, she would fetch them from school and prepare dinner. She faithfully persisted at this hectic schedule, even though she suffered from dizzy spells and was on daily medication.
During one of her sharings with me, she joyfully testified that God healed her completely.
Po Po is the epitome of selfless love. All four grandchildren love her dearly and compete to sleep next to her. Despite having leg cramps, she arranges two children to sleep at each side. No matter how she tosses and turns, she often wakes up to find a kid sleeping next to her.
Despite having to entertain the children’s antics and demands, I never once heard her complain or sigh. It is no wonder that the grandchildren all love their grandmother dearly and refuse to part with her.
The wonderful thing about Po Po is she does not teach from the Bible or preach from the pulpit on Sunday mornings. Her life and actions are her testimony. They speak louder than eloquent words. Her favourite greeting is “Jesus loves you” and she chooses to be the instrument of God’s love to family and strangers alike.
When Po Po sees less fortunate kids walking past, she would give them some children’s clothes and essential items. She also sacrifices her time to cook the favourite meals of a few workers whom she has gotten to know quite well.
I thank God that I was given a chance to know Po Po and her family during my stay in Kota Kinabalu, Sabah. Po Po knew of my predicament when my husband was working overseas for four months.
Most Sundays, more often than not, my three hyperactive kids would spend the entire day in her house playing with her four grandchildren after church. Po Po welcomed them, and loved and cared for them, like her own grandchildren.
She often tells me, “It doesn’t matter all the troubles I have to put up with, as long as the children are happy.” This gave me a break and a few hours of rest after taking care of them for a week.
In my struggle to discipline my own children, Po Po would listen to all my heartache with an understanding heart and without a word of criticism. When I broke down in tears and was about to collapse, Po Po came over and climbed up the stairs despite her painful knees, to help counsel my troubled teenage girl. Indeed, Po Po is a perfect reflection of Jesus’ love.
As a “single parent” in the land below the wind, I experienced a glimpse of family love when I got to know Po Po and her family better. As her husband is an ex-policeman, being transferred from one place to another was not uncommon.
They have been uprooted 17 times throughout his career. During the last week of our stay in Kota Kinabalu before we flew to Perth, Po Po knew exactly all the hassles that we were going through. She took my three children back to her house and cared for them until the day we were about to leave.
We only had to go there in the evening to have dinner with them. We were taken to the airport and were told that we were welcomed to stay in their home any time when we were in Kota Kinabalu for a holiday.
Once in a while, we come across people who touch our hearts and who leave lasting impressions. Po Po and her family are such wonderful people. The amazing love they showed is so far-reaching that even strangers marvel at them. Those who cross their path can’t help but admit that indeed, there is a God who truly loves and cares for them.
Po Po’s life is a testimony to God’s love that never fails.
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