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Wednesday September 25, 2013 MYT 12:00:00 AM
Wednesday September 25, 2013 MYT 7:45:58 AM
by dr pola singh
Perfect match: Kulvinder the resplendent bride, posing with the dashing groom, Rajvinder.
A peek at a traditional Punjabi wedding in all its majesty.
LAST month marked a symbolic beginning for my niece, Kulvinder, who tied the knot. I observed the beautiful Sikh wedding unfold, following every Punjabi wedding tradition to a T.
My sister, Iswander, had spent months preparing for the wedding, looking into every detail to ensure the wedding was a success. Meticulous efforts were made to hand-pick suits from India so that Kulvinder would look stunning on her big day.
Family and friends were swept up in the excitement as they purchased new suits and kurtas for the five-day ceremony.
As the wedding date neared, invitations were sent out personally, in keeping with Sikh tradition. My sister and her husband, Kuldip, tirelessly travelled nationwide to deliver the invitation by hand.
The first ceremony began with the maiyan (oil ceremony) whereby the bride-to-be was cleansed, followed by the mehendi (applying of henna) which was attended by close relatives and friends.
On the eve of the wedding, there was the sangeet event. It was a night of feasting and laughter, music and dancing. It was here that the groom’s entourage of almost 100 people made their grand appearance.
The pulsating beat of the dhol (Punjabi drum) filled the air and soon enough, everyone was tapping their feet. Members from the groom and bride’s side took to the dance floor, swaying to the rhythmic beat of Bhangra music.
The Anand Karaj (wedding ceremony) was held at the Malacca Sikh Temple, uniting the couple officially as man and wife. There was a priceless look on the newly-wed’s faces as they stole a glance at each other on their special day.
After the reception at a hotel, the event continued with a doli ceremony which marked the bride’s departure from her parents’ home. It was an emotional farewell as my sister and the bride hugged each other tightly as tears flowed.
Our relatives’ eyes also glistened with tears as the occasion signified that my niece now belongs to the groom’s family. Nonetheless, it also signifies that the bride’s parents now have a beloved son and the assurance that their daughter is in good hands.
Painstaking efforts had been put in by the bride’s parents to make the wedding a huge success.
Expectations are high as this is a traditional wedding. Gone are the days when family and friends attended a wedding as observers. Expectations have soared since. Meticulous planning is necessary to ensure that everyone invited to the wedding is entertained and taken care of.
While many turn to wedding planners, I believe there is nothing like planning your daughter’s wedding. It is a challenging task, but my sister was not going to settle for anything less than a mother’s touch.
My sister and her husband took full ownership of the wedding, following the rituals from A-Z. I marvel at their dedication and perseverance. The execution was immaculate!
Excitement and joy were reflected on the faces of family members as they participated in the wedding ceremonies.
The auspicious occasion not only symbolised the start of a new life together for the newly-weds, it also nurtured a strong bond among the relatives of the bride and groom. And it demonstrated the closeness of the members of the Tara Singh family, especially the 10 siblings who went all out to make the wedding a memorable occasion.
Although it has been more than a month, the wedding remains a talking point among friends and relatives. It was truly a wedding to remember. I eagerly await the next wedding as Iswander and Kuldip have two other daughters.
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