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by gayathri nair
Mary Anne Michael and January Low. — ART CHEN/The Star
A mother of three sons, Mary Anne Michael had always wondered what it would be like to have a daughter.
“My sons have always played their parts as good, obedient boys. My husband and I are very proud of their achievements and love them very much. But it always felt like I was missing the companionship of a daughter, someone to go to the movies with, or offer more than a general “Yes, it looks nice” when I’m shopping for clothes!” says Mary.
Therefore, when her sons told her they were getting married, she was over the moon because there would finally be girls in her family.
“We have been blessed with boys in our family – sons and nephews. So, when my boys announced they were finally tying the knot, my husband and I were ecstatic.
“My daughters-in-law have brought a new spark into the family and what’s even more wonderful is that we’ve recently been graced with grand babies!” says the proud grandmother to twin grandchildren.
Dancer January Low who is her second daughter-in-law says she has always felt more than welcomed into Mary’s family.
“Even when my husband and I were dating, his mother treated me like a queen. Whenever we visited her, she would always put my needs first and then my husband’s,” says the 29-year-old Low who has planned Mother’s Day activities for her mother-in-law for the past three years.
Low makes it a special day, and the two ladies usually bond over good food, Tamil movies or simply head out for a relaxing and fun-filled time.
Low’s mother and father live in Phuket, Thailand. “My mum had me when she was only 21-years-old. She has always been my best friend and we did everything together. My mother and mother-in-law are two very different people and of different generations.
“I realised the dynamics of our relationships differ. I have formed a different kind of respect towards my mother-in-law.
“She is a lovely person and carries herself with distinction. She is also full of compassion and has always been very nurturing since the day I met her.
“When I was pregnant, my mother-in-law fussed over me like any mother would, over her son. She prepared my favourite food every day and ensured I was always comfortable. She would attend to my needs and made me feel so special,” says Low.
Mary is proud of her daughter-in-law.
“The world is changing and we have to change with it. In my days, men were the breadwinners of the family and women were meant to stay home and take care of the household. However, January and my son share the responsibilities of raising a family together and I have never been so proud to have her in our clan,” says Mary.
Low believes that what brings them together is the mutual respect they have for each other. “My sister-in-law and I are the daughters my mother-in-law never had. Therefore, we take our roles as daughters-in-law seriously and always remember that she is the reason we have such wonderful husbands.
“My mother-in-law has certainly made a huge impact on my life. I am looking forward to spending many more days with her,” says Low.
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